It’s been a while since I’ve talked about my dating lyfe, and to be honest, I’ve decided to keep that part of my life a little bit more private these days. However, I must tell you about a new recent dating experience of mine- trading places.
Ever since I heard Usher’s hit song Trading Places, I’ve wondered if I could ever pull something like that off; you know, planning a date, picking the guy up, making the date an interesting and unique experience…etc.
I took up the Trading Places challenge when I lost a Super Bowl bet. I bet someone a dinner date that the Falcons would win the Super Bowl, which I was convinced they were going to until those last couple of plays. I still don’t know how the Falcons lost that game!! My loss ended up being his win and that’s how the trading places idea began.
At first, I really didn’t give the dinner date much thought, I was planning on meeting him at a fancy restaurant and just paying the bill. EASY. But then I thought, this could be a chance for me to do something a little different and instead, turn my loss into something we would both enjoy….Pretty clever, right?
So, that’s when I told him “We gon do this thing a little different toniiiiigggght” (yeah, this is a lyric from Usher’s Trading Places song) and I started planning our night out. Let me tell you, it wasn’t easy. I kept thinking about every detail and then re-thinking each idea.
- Would he like it?
- What if he’s allergic to something?
- What if he thinks this whole thing is weird?
- Am I weird for doing this?
- Am I doing too much?
- Can I actually be smooth enough to pull this off?
- What if everything I thought was unique, really isn’t and it’s been done before?
- Do I tell him what to wear?
- Do I keep it ALL a surprise or just a couple of things?
- Dear Lord, please help me.
So, this is what I came up with…I texted him early in the day and told him the attire was casual and then I told him to expect the unexpected (which I regret doing because that put a lot of pressure on me to deliver). Anyway, I told him I would pick him up at 7:30pm and that I was going to take him somewhere he’d never been before (again, something I probably shouldn’t have said) but I was feeling pretty confident.
Before picking him up I thought, if this is truly a role reversal kind of night then I should bring him some flowers, right? So I did. I stopped in at Central Market and picked up a single white rose.
Then I rushed home, got dressed and was on my way to pick him up. Not going to lie, I was a little nervous about how he would respond to all of this. You have no idea how close I was to canceling my idea and instead go with the fancy steakhouse option – but I didn’t. When he walked out to meet me, I took a big breath and I greeted him with a hug and gave him the rose…and guess what? He liked it!
As soon as he got in my car, I gave him a blindfold…….wait, what? Yep, I didn’t want him to know where we were going so I told him to put it on. To my surprise, he didn’t hesitate, despite the blindfold being SUPER girly. LOL.
I know, by now you’re probably wondering where I took him for dinner. After days of thinking and re-thinking, I decided to take him to the Guatemalan Restaurant on Hillcroft. I figured he hadn’t been there before and I thought it would be a great place to introduce him to new foods, a truly unexpected experience, and a place where I could tell him more about myself and where I’m from. Not bad, eh?
So what did he think of my efforts? Well, lucky for us, he was more than happy to share: “I liked the mystery and surprise element of the date. I liked not having to plan anything. I liked being picked up. I liked the unassuming hole in the wall restaurant you took me to.”
After planning this out, I now have a lot of respect for guys who are able to pull off great dates. It’s HARD! Thinking about every detail and coming up with a plan B and Plan C. But I learned that as long as you’re genuine with your intentions and you have a good attitude, that’s all that really matters. A good date boils down to enjoying the company that you’re with and if it’s good company then it doesn’t matter where you go, you’re bound to have a great time!