Don’t you love that moment in dating when you meet someone new and you get butterflies in your stomach because the chemistry is THAT strong? Then, you start getting excited to talk to them every day and you make plans to go out but then without any warning, it suddenly STOPS.
You’re left confused but then, the good feelings start back up because even though you haven’t texted in a few days, he adds you on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. You start to feel like maybe he really likes you because he’s choosing to look you up on social media and is adding you to his exclusive list of social media “friends”.
You start to think that maybe this is turning into something, especially when he starts to engage with your social media posts. He’s showing he likes you by the number of posts he likes or the times he watched your IG or Snapchat stories. You figure he must be interested because he’s engaging in the way we all engage now – through social media. But is that really the case?
Recently a girlfriend of mine and I were talking about our single girl lives when we realized just how much dating apps and social media have completely changed the way dating works. Apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Plenty of Fish, etc. have made it easy for a guy to think that interacting through a screen is the acceptable way to date.
Now listen, that’s not to say that I think you can’t find love via social media or dating apps. I know some people who have met online and it’s worked. The point of this article isn’t to bash online dating at all, It’s to discuss a new dating term that has come forward, giving these new dating parameters – Are you his Social Media Girlfriend?
This new term refers to the guy that is only interested in dating a girl through social media. He thinks his adds, likes, views, and comments on your page are enough to keep you on the hook. There is no more courting/sending texts/or even calling anymore. You don’t even go out at all! However, he constantly watches your IG and Snapchat stories and asks you things like, “what are you doing?” “We should hang out.” Or my favorite, “Dang, you look good.” All those messages imply that he wants to get together, right? But it doesn’t because he never follows through, he never calls, and he never makes plans to actually meet up.
Well, I’m tired of it. I speak for all single gals out there when I say, we are not interested in being your social media girlfriend. Don’t use social media interactions to date me, I want you to ACTUALLY date me!! Thanks to my friend for bringing this new term to LIFE, not that it’s a good thing, but at least now we have something to call that weird stage dozens of single girls are in right now.